10 THOUGHTS PEOPLE HAVE AFTER SEX

10. “What if I get pregnant?”
After the trembling sweet O, harsh reality then sinks in. The two bodies cool after a steamy encounter. Perhaps the condom broke, perhaps no condom was used. She sees herself pregnant and gets scared. Again the morning after pill is about to be searched for. She’s not ready to be a mother; he is not ready to be a father. To make it worse, they don’t know each other well, they are not even a couple, and they are not married. Maybe soon comes abortion, next comes an emotional scar. Why are you playing with sex?

the mother of my child9. “Oh my goodness Sweerie that was amazing!”
This is the best feeling, the best thought. When he looks at his wife and kisses her, when she looks at him and feels loved. This is the height of intimacy. The moment where “I love you” gets its deepest meaning.

autograph on my heart8. “I hate myself”
This is the thought of those selling their bodies, the thought of the one who has just cheated on their partner with another, the thought of the one who is breaking a marriage, the one who feels cheap, used and dirty. Sex is a gift from God, but if you abuse it, guilt will follow you, sex will cause you pain. Sex will be a high you run to that leaves you low, and to cope with that low some run to sex again and the cycle continues. So many hide behind fake smiles, praising the wonderful sex they are having in affairs or with multiple partners but deep inside they are empty. Stop ruining the beauty of sex for yourself.

roar dayan7. “I hate faking a climax”
Only a woman can do this, a man cannot fake his climax since for him there must be a white larva explosion as evidence. Many wives are frustrated in bed, women who feel their man only cares about himself. So she fakes it to end her misery quickly as he feels he is a conqueror. If you are not a virgin, the worst part is when you think “This is not the best I have had”, comparing your current sexual experience with that of a mind-blowing one you had with an old flame.

she's missing her king6. “I hope I’ll get pregnant this time”
This is a deep cry of a couple that has been trying to get pregnant but in vain. Pressure is more on the woman to get a baby and often when the pressure is too much it ruins the chances of her getting a baby. Her husband should keep her feeling relaxed and wanted, loved with or without a baby.

feed the baby dear, i shall feed you5. Are you up for another round?
This is for the hot couple, the lovers driving each other wonderfully crazy. A woman can go for many back to back rounds but the man might take some few minutes, in those minutes, keep it steamy, explore.

the night of our honeymoon4. “I hope I was good enough”
One of the biggest insecurities lie in our performance in bed. The stakes are so high in a world where a man wants a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed, men openly drool over blue movie stars, and women with big behinds and boobs; in a world where women show excitement over men who are sex-symbols, so much music going on of men praising how great they are in bed, plus all the ridicule and stereotyping surrounding the size of a man’s tool. It comforts the heart when your spouse tells you “You did me so well!” and it’s believable. If you expect your spouse to be faithful, then your natural desire is that your spouse finds your sex amazing.

autograph on my heart3. “I miss making love”
This is a tragic thought, when sex with your spouse is just that- sex, no love. The warmth is gone, no intimacy, just two horny bodies, a partner who demands your sex, you give it and then the partner walks away like you were some form of a sex slave. Whether you will have a quickie, rough sex or slow and passionate sessions, your spouse must feel loved. After the release, hold each other, have a heart to heart conversation, kiss.

planting kisses2. “I wonder what your HIV status is”
Worry creeps in when you begin to think you might have just opened a door to your life that will harm you. When you know very well the person you have just been with is unfaithful, and chances are, has been getting some sugar from other quarters.

kissing my way to my wife's twin grapes1. “Sex was great but we still have issues to resolve”
Never use sex to blanket your issues as a couple. Sex is not the best way of measuring a good relationship; it’s possible to have explosive sex even with someone who hurts you. Do calm down after the high and talk about your issues. Make up sex is good, but only when actual making up occurs and matters are addressed.

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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10 PEOPLE YOU SHOULD MEET BEFORE YOU FIND YOUR TRUE LOVER

10. Your first crush, your first love
We often hope the first person our hearts fall in love with would be our true lover, but often, the first person we have a crush on and grow to love is the one who opens us up. He/she is the one who gives us courage to trust someone, to love someone, that person introduces us to love. The first heartbreak is often the most painful because love was a foreign experience and breaking up also a foreign experience. But this is an opportunity for our heart to gain muscle, strength and maturity.

m'hoyah moh9. The pursuants
These are the people who pursue us, the secret admirers and the vocal people who woo us, the people who ask for your number, ask you out on a date, try to flirt with you, stare at you when you walk yet you know nothing can go on between you and any one of them. We all need to feel wanted, chased after and desired. This people come to our life to show us we have something admirable that people see and crave for. So lady, if men are ogling at you just because of your boobs, ass, eyes, fame or wealth; men, if women are drooling over you just because of your abs, eyes, smile, riches or physique, don’t worry, they belong in this category. Don’t let this people get to your head and fill you with pride, don’t be foolish to be distracted by them.

i will love you no matter what8. The heartbreaker
This is the person or people who will break your heart and crush you. The person/ people who will betray you, cheat on you, beat you, reject you, abandon you, insult you, lie to you and do things a true lover would never do. This is a test, a test to teach you what you shouldn’t do to your true lover when you meet, a test to see how strong you are, a test to show you what love is not so that you know what love is when true love finally comes along. This person/ people will leave you with a scar/s to heal. Love doesn’t hurt people, people hurt people. If someone damaged you, it’s not because love is wrong, but your choice was wrong.

binti afrique7. The model father, model mother
In a world where many parents have failed their children, you need a model father and a model mother to be your benchmark of who a good parent and spouse is, whether this parent is your own or not. So your father was never there or failed you as a child, lady you need a model father figure you can admire; man you need a model father figure to inspire you. Whether or not your mother was around or good to you, lady you need a model mother to emulate; man you need a model mother to teach you who a woman really is. There is a lot of bashing of the sexes going on in this generation because of childhood pain. If you take that pain and bundle of stereotypes into your relationship it will be the lenses that you view your true lover through, leading to conflict and misunderstandings.

family car6. The naysayers
These are the people who have given up on love, people who will talk down on love. They will discourage you from believing in love. You will look at their life and see how messed up their love life is- failed marriages, divorces, drama and emotional damage. They are the people who call on radio and TV and advertise how marriages are failing. They will come to test you, will your faith in love emerge strong or will it be extinguished and you join the club of the ones who have given up on love?

sitting on top of the world5. The one you cannot have
This is the person who will have all the right qualities but you two cannot be a couple. Either because they are not ready for a relationship, you are not ready for a relationship, they are already taken, they are too far and long-distance relationship cannot work, age difference, are of a different religion, strains between your family and their family, or things just don’t seem to work out. This person comes to make you believe true love is possible, that there are still good men/ women in this world.

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4. God
You need to meet God, the one who created you, the one who will guide you. God is the one who has kept your true lover in a safe place, God is the key. First have a good relationship with God, and then seek to have a good relationship with a human lover. If you want a love made in Heaven, you must involve the one who abodes in Heaven.

189601_1937924407777_4560307_n3. Yourself
There is nothing as difficult and risky as loving someone who doesn’t know who they are. That kind of person is unstable, easily swayed, they lack values and principles. Before you find your true lover, find yourself first. Know who you are. Let your true lover not find you disorganised and a mess. Finding yourself will make you attractive and it will inform you of what kind of a lover you need. How can you find if you don’t know what you’re looking for?

592. The true friend
Life is not just about romance and all things sexual. You need a true friend whether of the same or opposite sex. Someone you can count on, someone to look out for you. This true friend will either turn out to be your true lover in disguise or will be the one who escorts you to your true lover and be the greatest support of the true love you will find.

inspekat mwala1. The tempter
This is the person you lust after, either sexually or emotionally but you shouldn’t. This is the married person who wants an affair with you, or the person in a relationship who melts your heart. The wrong one. The line you shouldn’t cross. This person looks appealing but you know it’s dangerous. This person comes to weigh your character and the substance you are made of. If you are strong, you will avoid; but in case you have already fallen for their trap you can get out, it’s not too late. If you can handle this person maturely, you will handle your true lover/ your marriage well. This is the ultimate test of faithfulness. If you can be faithful when you are single, you can be faithful when in a relationship/ married. If you can respect someone else’s marriage/ relationship, you will respect your own.

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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10 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER TELL YOUR LOVER

10. “You’re not like my ex”

Never make your lover feel compared with your ex. Never make the one you have given your heart feel in competition with your former lover. Some in new relationships can’t stop talking about their ex, they go on dates and talk about their ex, in the middle of a conversation they mention their ex, “My ex used to do this”, “My ex used to take me there”. What are you doing with someone who is not better than your ex?

 

Equally worse is comparing your relationship with that of others, wishing your relationship/ marriage would be similar to that of your friends or the celebrity couple you admire. Instead of comparing, work on your love-life together?

379. “You look fat”

Ok, so your lover has gained weight or slimmed drastically. Your lover’s physique is no longer appealing. Don’t attack the body that carries the heart that loves you. Note that changes are bound to happen to all bodies. To inspire your lover to get a good figure, praise them, mention your concern for his/ her health, feed your lover to size or join your lover at the gym. Let your lover feel you are present in his/her make over, if you attack, you will not inspire a make over, you will only destroy your lover’s self esteem and build a wall between you two.

she's missing her king8. “You are lazy”

We all want a hardworking lover, a successful partner. Before you commit, choose a lover with ambition and passion, a lover with inner drive. But what happens when you notice your spouse has become a lazy bum, when you feel you are the only one doing everything? Don’t shout the words “You good for nothing” thinking that will push your lover to change. Instead, talk with your lover, find out what went wrong, is your lover going through something? Find out your lover’s dream; see if you can inject hope. We all have our low moments. Love is powerful, powerful enough to bring out the best in us.

on my back7. “You always mess up”

Never use the word “always”, unless it’s in a positive statement like “I will always love you”. Never make your lover feel you are focusing only on the mess he/she has done today and the good your lover has done before no longer counts to you. The truth is, that person is your lover because you saw lots of good in them. Be like God; don’t attack the person, attack the sin.

serene dayan6. “F**k you”

Watch your tongue when you are angry. When a fight breaks out, wrong words can be easily used, insults surge at the tip of the tongue. No matter how bad things get between you two, never insult, never curse your love, never say “I hate you”, never say “F**k you” unless your lover loves it when you talk dirty and you saying “I want to f**k you” is a turn on.

615. “I wish I never knew you”

Relationships can reach the lowest, but never make your lover think you regret being in that relationship. If you are going to say this, say this when you are out of the relationship, not in. But remember even the worst of relationships can end up teaching us something.

planting kisses4.”That’s not my baby”

Men are famous for doing this, some men, not all. When your woman comes to tell you she is pregnant, don’t let your tongue run loose and deny the child without proof, yet you have been sleeping together. The child may not yet be born but still feels your rejection. Such words can’t be taken back. Don’t expect to deny the child at conception and years later come around saying “I want to see my baby” after the baby has grown to a wonder while you were absent.

feed the baby dear, i shall feed you3. “I told you so”

Never belittle your lover. Never laugh or gloat at the demise of your lover and rub it in. Don’t keep reminding your lover of his/ her mistakes. You must live up to the true definition of a lover and walk your lover back to a safe zone, back to rising again. Whatever affects your lover should affect you too. Don’t isolate your lover saying “How could you be so stupid? You never learn”

sweerie don't look behind, but i think they are talking about us2. “Your sex is boring”

We all want to feel like we are sex symbols to our partner, that our spouse looks at us and sees sexiness. That we touch the right way and give good sex to our one and only. But if your partner is not pushing your buttons right don’t say it out so casually. Once our sexiness is trampled upon, that marks the death of our sex-life. First, be sexy to your partner; before you desire your partner to bring his/ her “A” game make sure you’re bringing yours. Second, lead your partner on how to please you. Say what you like as you give your partner what he/ she likes. Try new things. Have an affair with each other. Most of all, love each other deeply when your are both clothed up. It’s easy to unleash our sexiness to the person we feel our heart is safe with.

kissing my way to my wife's twin grapes1. “Your family is pathetic”

Never attack any member of your lover’s family. Never be the reason there is a rift between you and your in-laws. Show some effort in reaching out to your in-laws. Even if your partner’s family is not as welcoming, let your partner see you stretching a hand, praying for them or offering solutions not listing their flaws. Don’t attack the family you are planning on joining or the one you have already joined in marriage for the rest of your life.

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10 WAYS TO KNOW YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE

10. When you lean on addiction
Do you turn to alcohol, sex, pornography, drugs when times are hard? Do you use an addiction to escape the reality of your life? Emotionally strong people don’t run away from the matter, they don’t hide it under the carpet; they confront it, building up a strong mind and heart, they pray, they lean on friends instead. Leaning on addiction doesn’t solve issues, in fact, you will keep leaning on the addiction to help you cope with the mess and emptiness the addiction brings you.roar dayan

9. When you seek revenge
Did someone wrong you and you’re devoting your energy on getting back and settling scores? Do you find yourself scheming on how to come on top to prove a point? Emotionally unstable people want to succeed because they are insecure and want to prove a point, but mature and stable beings work to succeed out of purpose, doing the right thing. We live in a world that has glorified haters and sings about showing your hater some hate back. Soap operas and movies make revenge look glamorous, but in reality, only an insecure person will put effort in attacking back. It’s wise to be the bigger person. The world goes to wars when emotionally unstable people are in power.

protect africa8. When you use manipulation
“If you love me you will have sex with me”, how many have used that line? How many use threats to get things done? Do you threaten your lover, your work mates, your friends, your children, your employees to get things done? That is a sign of emotional instability; where you feel you must coerce someone because you have fallen short when it comes to attracting loyalty, faithfulness, a following or respect.

the night of our honeymoon7. When you are easily swayed by others
Do you have a mind of your own? Or is your voice silenced by the noise of others? Is it easy for someone to confuse you? Emotionally unstable people desire to fit in, and they will do anything to gain acceptance. They are the type whose friends will tell them “Man you’re being too soft with your woman” then he becomes less loving to his woman. The type who are told “Woman you are ugly” and then she loses her self-esteem and becomes too self-conscious

uplifting music6. When you are angry towards God
Are you rebelling against God because of a tragedy? Are you angry at God because things are not going your way? Mad at God because a loved one died? To emotionally grow is to realize that God is God whether you believe or not. Death will happen, death is beyond us; but life after death is in God’s hands. Instead of hating God because of the death of a loved one, why not thank God that you got to have life, you got to know that person and loved that person while they breathed. Life in itself is a gift, stop acting like you are entitled to it yet the very air you breathe you cannot manufacture. Instead of running away from God because things went wrong, run to God to be on the right side no matter how many times you hit a wall. We often focus too much on getting blessed and having prayers answered; yet God wants to make us a blessing, make us the answer to prayers. God wants more than giving you things, God wants to transform you.

patrice lumumba5. When you make decisions based on feelings
“I don’t feel like going to work” then you quit your job. “I don’t feel I love you anymore” then you end a relationship. “I don’t feel understood” then you withdraw from your friends. “I don’t feel sexy” then you sleep around to bring sexy back. All those are feelings, feelings are amazing when they are good feelings, but bad feelings will also be there. Feelings are never constant. At times you are in high moods other times low. Don’t use feelings as a compass, be rational, objective, and let bad moods get swept away by good moods before you make hasty decisions based on bad feelings. Love is not a feeling, it is a decision, a responsibility; not every day will your lover make you feel wow, sexy or mushy.

our love song made in heaven4. When you contemplate committing suicide
This thought is for cowards. This is the ultimate show of “I am emotionally unstable. A loser. I give up!”

mural 103. When you air your problems to attract sympathy
This happens a lot on Facebook, social media and social gatherings. Some people love to parade their woes looking for attention. They will add tears to their eyes to get a longer hug, prolong their sickness to get more nursing, they will pretend all is not well or use the fact that they are not well to be remembered. It is OK to allow people to be there for you, but analyze yourself; do you feel people are not giving you much time and thought and so you display your problems to stay in the radar?

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2. When you find it hard to forgive
It takes a strong heart to forgive. Keeping that bitterness in your heart only makes you emotionally imbalanced, you are the person carrying that unnecessary weight that is messing up your heart while the person you are not forgiving is busy living their life in joy and has moved on. Don’t wait for someone who has wronged you to come and ask for forgiveness, maybe they don’t even know they did you wrong. Don’t darken your heart just because someone hasn’t said “I am sorry!”

john wesley1. When you are afraid to love
Are you giving excuses why you cannot love? Do you run away when someone is getting close to the warmth of your heart? Have you hidden your heart because you are afraid if you love you might be heartbroken just like it happened in the past? History shouldn’t define you but enlighten you. It takes guts to be vulnerable to someone, to let a lover in; true love is for the brave!

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s thoughts on love, download for free “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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10 BEST MOMENTS TO KISS YOUR WOMAN

10. In front of her friends
Women love a public declaration of love. A kiss is a big symbolic way of showing your woman love, especially when done in front of her friends. It shows her that her man loves her and is not afraid to show it. Many men are great and comfortable kissing their woman in private, but a public kiss shows you are a proud lover.COUPLE

9. In the middle of a romantic movie scene
So you’re in the house or at the cinema watching a movie, then a mushy romantic scene engulfs the story. Look your woman in the eye (Even in the darkness at the cinema. If not, trace her lips in a creative way) and kiss her. Kissing her that moment shows you connect with the romantic story since you two are living out a romantic story too.

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8. After a prayer
A prayer has been said; don’t just say “Amen”. Add a kiss to your “Amen”. It tells her that when you think about God, you think about her for she is a blessing. It tells her you hold your love dearly.

the prayerful couple

7. In front of her Ex or your Ex or a woman who is after you
Save her the trouble of fighting the other woman or man trying to come between you two. Do this through a public gesture that is loud and clear. Give her a kiss that says her position in your heart and life is secured. Affirm her, be her hero and let the kiss be your act of heroism.

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6. During your wedding day
Spontaneous kisses are the best, the ones least expected. Though the kiss after the vow is planned, expected and directed by the one officiating, give her a memorable kiss none the less. Kiss her the way others will look on and say “Oh my, the good man has left us. Why are all the good ones taken every time?”

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5. When an apology is needed

You’ve done wrong and are apologizing, she has forgiven you. Don’t just walk away and live on, give her a kiss. A kiss that says you care about her feelings, you are genuinely sorry and you don’t take her forgiveness lightly.

You’ve had a fight, harsh words were spoken, tempers flared, you both were on the wrong or she is the one who messed up big time. A woman gets scared of losing the man she loves or even if she doesn’t lose him, she feels scared that things will not be the same and it’s her fault. To tell her you’ve truly forgiven her, kiss her. Let the kiss be a confirmation to tell her you don’t hold it against her.

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4. In her success and her defeats
You love her for better and for worse. When she succeeds and accomplishes something that is special to her, kiss her. You may give her a congratulations card or throw her a party, but crown all that with a kiss, that makes it all special and intimate.

When she fails, when she’s beaten down by life, when she is sick or when things get tough and she feels discouraged; plant a kiss on her. She needs to feel you are still with her, let your lips convince her, rejuvenate her.

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3. When she tells you she’s pregnant

A woman always plans for the best moment to tell her man they are expecting a baby, even if it’s their second, third, fifth or tenth baby. For a while, she wonders in her mind what will be his response; will he reject the baby, will he be excited, will he feel disappointed because they are not ready, will he blame her for poor family planning, will he love the baby, will he wonder why they need another baby? A kiss will silence all her fears, it will speak of her man’s joy, allowing her to carry the pregnancy in peace and comfort knowing she has the father walking with her. As she carries that pregnancy, once in a while, kiss her belly.

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2. When you propose to her
An extravagant proposal, a simple one; you get down on one knee or you do it differently. Whichever way you propose to her, kiss her when she says “Yes”. Give her a kiss that seals your question and her answer. Give her a taste of the kisses she should expect now that she is to be your wife.

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1. When you are old and grey
The beauty and purpose of love is to find someone to age with, someone to share life with; many search for that but don’t find it. She has given you years of her life to spend with you, stood by you, the least you can do is kiss her. Sure, your bodies have changed, wrinkles fill both your face, and hair has turned grey, little activity if any happens under the covers but she still needs to know that you don’t just love her, you’re still in love with her. She still needs your attention and affection, that same woman you kissed on your wedding day, needs your kiss during your sunset years.
As Cher sang, “If you want to know if he loves you so, it’s in his kiss”

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s thoughts on love, download for free “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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