10 THINGS YOU MUST DECLARE DURING THE FIRST DATES

10. “I have a child”
Declare if you are a parent to the person you are hoping on pursuing love with, whether you are in that child’s life or not. Men have often been irresponsible in rejecting the child they have with a woman in the past and keep this from the new woman in their life, only for it to bring complications and feelings of mistrust. This truth can never be fully hidden, one day it will come out. If you don’t have the guts to declare your own flesh and blood, you have no right to seek new love.

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9. “I was once married”
Were you once married? Declare this to your date, tell your date exactly what happened, did you divorce, separate, is the divorce final?.. Are you in a marriage union and still going out on dates with others? Shame on you, stop wooing someone new, go work on your marriage. If you want to date again, conclude the divorce. Either you are in or you’re out.

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8. “I am not over my ex”
If you are still in love with your ex, hoping for things between you and your ex to work out, declare that. Don’t give your date false hopes of a future yet you are still dreaming of your ex. Declare it so that your date will hold back his/her feelings.

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7. “I am a virgin”
Are you waiting for someone extra special, waiting for marriage in order for you to have sex? Declare that. Declare your thoughts about sex so that the person hoping to love you will know what to expect when with you. Talk about how you will deal with matters of horniness. Your date could be expecting sex the first night yet you are waiting for a special night.

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6. “I am sick”
Are you H.I.V positive, with cancer, an addiction, epileptic? Declare that. Having an illness or condition will not make you unlovable. Help your date and future lover to love you by declaring your status. Empower your lover by being open at the beginning, so that he/she will walk best with you.

 

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5. “I don’t want any children”
When people are dating, they could be seeing a family in the future with you. Declare if you are interested in having children. Your date might be dreaming of a child with you yet you never want children. May be you even had a vasectomy or a tubal ligation and your poor date is hoping for parenthood one day with you.

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4. “I don’t believe in marriage”
Are you planning on getting married one day? If you are not, don’t waste the time of someone looking for a spouse

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3. “I am planning on being polygamous”
Man, don’t propose to a woman to a monogamous marriage and then as soon as she enters thinking your love for her will be exclusive you change and start the search for a second, third, and fourth wife. Tell the woman exactly what she’s getting herself into so that she can better say “Yes” or “No”

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2. “I believe in God”
Are you praying for a Godly family with a Godly spouse? Then don’t waste time with someone who has no use for God.

Do you want nothing about God in your love-life? Then don’t continue loving someone who believes love comes from God. Someone who will want to pray with you, read the Word with you but you detest all that’s Godly.

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1. “I am bi-sexual”
Some people marry someone of the opposite sex to cover up their love for the same sex. Come out clearly from the beginning; to a wife, the most hurtful thing can be losing her husband to a man or her husband cheating on her with a man. To the man he needs to know if the woman is all for a masculine love, or will in secret be fantasizing about women?

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10 WORST PICK UP LINES TO TELL A LADY THE FIRST DAY

10. “Are you a model?”

Most men always equate beauty to modeling. As if modeling is the only career for gorgeous ladies. You can be a lawyer, a chef, a doctor, a business woman, a journalist, a police woman and still be attractive and hot!

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9. “I love you?”

Some men get carried away by their infatuation of a lady that they say it so cheaply. How do you love someone you don’t really know? If you use such intimate words too quickly and loosely, your intentions are in doubt. Are you a man or a boy? A boy spurts words out of infatuation, a man covers the woman from the pain and confusion his reckless use of words and deeds can bring her.

john wesley8. “Your mum must be a terrorist cause you’re the bomb”

This is the worst line to use in these days of frequent terrorist activities. No one likes being associated with Al-Qaeda, Al-Shabaab or Boko Haram; especially if they can’t take a joke.

ellen johnson sirleaf7. “Nice ass you got there”

Never show a woman you view her as a sex object; that the only reason you are approaching her is because of her body. The first impression you give to a lady should never be “Hey sexy, I want to sleep with you even though I don’t even know your name”

LET'S GET IT ON!!!6. “Hey sweetheart”

Women love to feel special, if a man shows himself generous in using intimate names to any woman even if it’s to her and yet they barely know each other; she will become suspicious of him and question whether he means his words. Darling, beautiful, babie- special names should be reserved for someone special; it takes time for someone to become special.

tania5. “Lose your boyfriend”

A man shouldn’t approach a lady the first day as someone out to attack her current relationship, no matter how pathetic her current relationship is. A good woman is protective of her man and she will repel you if you attack the love she has. But even if she is willing to play and flirt with you because of the dullness in her current relationship, she will not take you seriously because if you don’t respect what she has right now, how will you respect what you two might have?

sitting on top of the world4. “Heaven must be missing an angel

This is just one of the many cheesy, corny and over-used lines spoken. A woman loves a man who is fresh, different, exciting and creative. She’ll be turned off if she thinks you are the type who copies and pastes ways of approaching a lady from discussions men have when they group together or from a movie scene.

on board flight L.O.V.E3. “Niaje kamrembro” – “wassup little girl”

One of the ways to get to a woman’s heart is through words. By your words she will know how you view her. Whatever language you use, make sure the words you use don’t give an impression that you take her casually or that you’re immature or demeaning.

m'hoyah moh2. “I am here to save you”

Don’t approach a full grown woman, capable of holding her own as if you being in her life is doing her a favor; as if you are her savior. Only girls can be damsels in distress, but a grown woman, no matter how tough her life is, she wants a partner not a man who thinks she is zero without him. She wants a man to walk with, not one to worship.

kipusa kwenye balcony1. Stop using a pick up line

Why are you using a pick up line in the first place? Ladies are not goods to be picked up but whole beings to engage with, know, respect and relate with. The best conversation starts when a man is himself to a lady. Just be yourself. Honesty is very attractive!

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10 THINGS A LOVER LOOKS OUT FOR BEFORE TAKING THE RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL

10. How you handle correction

Do you get offended when you are faulted? Are you easy to correct? Do you admit when wrong? A lover looking to see if you are a suitable life-partner will look at how you own up to responsibility, how easy you are to work with.

binti afrique9. How you handle “NO”

Relationships/ marriage is about compromise, not every day you will get everything going your way. Will you be OK to listen to your partner? To cede ground? Will you be OK if your partner says “No” to your option for good reasons? Will you take competition inside the relationship?… If your lover says “No” to your date when you request because of work will you be vexed? If your lover doesn’t pick up your phone call for legitimate reasons, will you be furious for no reason?

roar dayan8. How you handle failure

Sometimes you will fail, sometimes your lover will fall. If it happens, will you give up on yourself? Will you give up on your lover? Are you easy to discourage? Do you only love when things are going smoothly?

protect africa7. How you handle money

Do you look like the type who will be changed when you get more money? Do you judge your partner based on how much he/ she earns? Or do you have a low self-esteem because your partner earns more? Will your partner have to constantly keep reminding you it’s OK if you have less than he/ she does?

family car6. How you handle your temper

Tempers will flare sometimes, the closer you get to each other the easier it is to step on each other’s nerves? What do you do when you are angry? Do you curse, insult, drown yourself in alcohol, do irrational things?… or do you pray, calm down, seek the route of peace?… Do you avoid issues or are you the type to seek solutions. Everyone wants a partner easy to work and live with.

uplifting music5. How you handle tragic news

Are you a comforter? Are you able to sooth your lover when your lover is in pain? Do you make your lover feel better? When someone close to your lover dies, do you help in mourning? Or do you expect your lover to comfort you but you fall short when your lover needs your support?…When things tragic happen, do you share with your lover or keep things to yourself? Do you only share the good things?

she's missing her king4. How you handle secrets

Are you trustworthy? Are you easy to talk with? Does your lover feel safe with you? Will you use the secrets your lover tells you as ammunition when you two fight? Can you keep the personal things in your relationship from the public?

planting kisses3. How you handle your ex

How do you talk about your ex? Does your ex still have an influence in your life? Do you have closure from your past or is there room your past will come to damage your future? Are you wrongly being suspicious of your lover because of the wrongs your ex did?

sweerie don't look behind, but i think they are talking about us2. How you handle yourself

Do you have a low self esteem? Are you a pessimist? Are you full of pride? Are you self-centred?… Or do you know yourself? Are you fun to be around? Do you find yourself sexy or do you depend on the opinion of others? How do you handle sex? What’s your view about sex? Are you the type who talks cheaply about sex, a flirt? Are you the type who finds sex to be a taboo? No one likes a boring sex partner who over thinks things. No one likes a loose partner.

LET'S GET IT ON!!!1. How you handle children

A lover who is keen on a lasting relationship, marriage will pay attention to how you treat children or how you talk about children. For a man, he will look out for her motherly signs: how does she handle other people’s children and if she is a single mother, how does she handle her own child/ children? For a woman, she will look for a father figure: is the man mature enough to raise someone, does he have qualities of leading, or nurturing?

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10 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE NOT YET OVER YOUR EX

10. You run away
Are you avoiding your ex at all cost? Does hearing your ex’s name gives you a kick? Are you drowning yourself in alcohol, jumping from one club to another pretending to be having fun as a way of moving on? You haven’t truly moved on until you can look back at your past and your past doesn’t move you. You should bump into your ex in the streets and feel nothing- say hi and move on with your life instead of reminiscing. Running away is a sign of denial.

619. You compare your new lover with your ex
Do you find yourself measuring your current lover with your ex? Those are clear signs of you missing your past. Move on or go back, make up your mind.

sweerie don't look behind, but i think they are talking about us8. You become a stalker
A private eye you have become. Obsessed with tracking your ex’s movements, what your ex posts on Facebook and social media, questioning if your ex is happy without you?

john wesley7. You keep recalling the past
Do you find yourself going through the old messages your ex sent you? Staring at your old pictures together? You still have that box safely hidden with the special gifts your ex gave you? Do you find yourself fighting the desire to pick up the phone to call your ex? Wondering how you two would have been if you remained a couple?

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6. You are jealous
Do you feel a bad taste in your mouth when you see or hear your ex with someone? Do you compare your ex’s current lover with yourself, of course saying how pathetic your ex’s new lover is unlike you? Are you planning on destroying your ex’s new relationship?

she's missing her king5. You bad mouth your ex
Some will do everything to ruin the reputation of their ex. They will unveil all the ex’s dirty secrets to the world, make up false stories, exaggerate the ex’s flaw to ruin the ex’s reputation before the public. These are the type who will post private photos and videos of the ex online. You have not moved on if you have not forgiven.

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4. You move on too quickly
Some will jump into a new relationship, get married quickly, use a new lover as a desperate attempt to forget their ex. They will force themselves on someone new, force love. Rushing because they want to go into a new relationship before the ex does too; thinking that it will be tragic to remain single yet the ex finds someone new, gets married and starts a family. In the end, they hurt, their victim of a lover hurts and their forced relationship sucks. Do you find yourself wanting to show your ex how happy you are without him/ her? Go into a new relationship because you are truly in love, not to get back at your ex or to bandage your true suppressed feelings. That is unfair to your new lover. Give yourself time to heal.

kipusa kwenye balcony3. You use your child as an excuse
Some will device traps using the child as bait. They will use the child they have together with their ex as a bridge to their ex.

family car2. Your ex still turns you on
Do you still fantasize about your ex? You can’t stand looking your ex in the eye because you will melt? You will want to steal a kiss? Rip your ex’s clothes off? Live out your former explosive scenes? Is your ex still your definition of sexiness?

biro sketch1. You can’t attend your ex’s wedding
Would you turn down an invite to your ex’s wedding? Pretending to be busy? Do you refuse to go because you object to the marriage?…You know you will stand up when the officiator asks “Is is there anyone with any reason why these two should not wed?”

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SHE’S MORE OF A MAN, LESS OF A WOMAN

No, she’s not the butch in a lesbian’s relationship
She is straight
She grew up wearing dresses, playing with dolls
Had crushes with boys, fell in love with a man

She was a princess, but before she turned into a queen
She was forced to be manly
In a world that tells her
“Act like a lady, think like a man”

But if she thinks like a man
Who will think womanly things?
Aren’t the feminine thoughts important?
Was it a mistake to create her a woman?

The men in her life failed her
Her alcoholic, abusive father rejected her
Her cousin raped her, her male boss harrased her
Every man sees her as a sex object up for grab

Where was a man when she needed a father figure?
Where was a man to protect her from an unfair world?
Where is the man she thought loved her?
Where is he, the one who impregnated her?

A single mother, an absent father to her child
She’s pushed to become mum and dad
Where are the so called heads of the family?
Will the real men please stand up?

Will the real men please stand up?
Take your rightful space in society
Use your strength not to beat or dominate
But to shield a woman from the monster a man can be

Will the real men please stand up?
Be the man who refuses to sleep with the prostitute
Because that prostitute needs to meet a different man
A man who’ll say “Your body is not for sale, you’re better than this”

Will the real men please stand up?
Will you stop being heartbreaking boys?
Stop thinking with what is between your legs
Start shaping the world with what is between your ears?

Woman be woman, let man play his role
They say what a man can do
A woman can do better
But it’s best when he and she do it together

BY DAYAN MASINDE

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A POEM FOR UKRAINE

Ukraine, crane your neck
Crane your neck and you will find wisdom
To the world you have become a source of entertainment
Popular you are for all the wrong reasons

Crane your neck Ukraine
And see how foolish it is for your citizens to fight each other
To divide yourself between East and West
Two different forces pushing Crimea and Kiev

Crane your neck Ukraine, find the compass leading to truth
Stop tempting war, see how shallow it is
To destoy your beautiful country
Based on what language one speaks

Some are using you for political milage
Others are riding on you to flex their muscle
But it is your children that are dying
It is your economy that is going to the dogs

See your policemen tired, see the tears in the crowd
As they hold weapons shouting propaganda
Deep down inside both sides ask
“What happened to us? We used to be brothers and sisters”

And you still are brothers and sisters
You still can be Ukraine, the yellow and blue
The rich country, the bread basket of fertile hue
Don’t you see your ports and location is the envy of many?

Don’t you see in your anger it is easy to be manipulated?
Refuse for you nation to be turned into a circus
Your help will not come from the East or West winds
Your help billows in the breeze of love

Crane your neck Ukraine
Above the toxic gas of hatred
Breathe. Think
Before more blood spills

BY DAYAN MASINDE

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10 THOUGHTS PEOPLE HAVE AFTER SEX

10. “What if I get pregnant?”
After the trembling sweet O, harsh reality then sinks in. The two bodies cool after a steamy encounter. Perhaps the condom broke, perhaps no condom was used. She sees herself pregnant and gets scared. Again the morning after pill is about to be searched for. She’s not ready to be a mother; he is not ready to be a father. To make it worse, they don’t know each other well, they are not even a couple, and they are not married. Maybe soon comes abortion, next comes an emotional scar. Why are you playing with sex?

the mother of my child9. “Oh my goodness Sweerie that was amazing!”
This is the best feeling, the best thought. When he looks at his wife and kisses her, when she looks at him and feels loved. This is the height of intimacy. The moment where “I love you” gets its deepest meaning.

autograph on my heart8. “I hate myself”
This is the thought of those selling their bodies, the thought of the one who has just cheated on their partner with another, the thought of the one who is breaking a marriage, the one who feels cheap, used and dirty. Sex is a gift from God, but if you abuse it, guilt will follow you, sex will cause you pain. Sex will be a high you run to that leaves you low, and to cope with that low some run to sex again and the cycle continues. So many hide behind fake smiles, praising the wonderful sex they are having in affairs or with multiple partners but deep inside they are empty. Stop ruining the beauty of sex for yourself.

roar dayan7. “I hate faking a climax”
Only a woman can do this, a man cannot fake his climax since for him there must be a white larva explosion as evidence. Many wives are frustrated in bed, women who feel their man only cares about himself. So she fakes it to end her misery quickly as he feels he is a conqueror. If you are not a virgin, the worst part is when you think “This is not the best I have had”, comparing your current sexual experience with that of a mind-blowing one you had with an old flame.

she's missing her king6. “I hope I’ll get pregnant this time”
This is a deep cry of a couple that has been trying to get pregnant but in vain. Pressure is more on the woman to get a baby and often when the pressure is too much it ruins the chances of her getting a baby. Her husband should keep her feeling relaxed and wanted, loved with or without a baby.

feed the baby dear, i shall feed you5. Are you up for another round?
This is for the hot couple, the lovers driving each other wonderfully crazy. A woman can go for many back to back rounds but the man might take some few minutes, in those minutes, keep it steamy, explore.

the night of our honeymoon4. “I hope I was good enough”
One of the biggest insecurities lie in our performance in bed. The stakes are so high in a world where a man wants a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed, men openly drool over blue movie stars, and women with big behinds and boobs; in a world where women show excitement over men who are sex-symbols, so much music going on of men praising how great they are in bed, plus all the ridicule and stereotyping surrounding the size of a man’s tool. It comforts the heart when your spouse tells you “You did me so well!” and it’s believable. If you expect your spouse to be faithful, then your natural desire is that your spouse finds your sex amazing.

autograph on my heart3. “I miss making love”
This is a tragic thought, when sex with your spouse is just that- sex, no love. The warmth is gone, no intimacy, just two horny bodies, a partner who demands your sex, you give it and then the partner walks away like you were some form of a sex slave. Whether you will have a quickie, rough sex or slow and passionate sessions, your spouse must feel loved. After the release, hold each other, have a heart to heart conversation, kiss.

planting kisses2. “I wonder what your HIV status is”
Worry creeps in when you begin to think you might have just opened a door to your life that will harm you. When you know very well the person you have just been with is unfaithful, and chances are, has been getting some sugar from other quarters.

kissing my way to my wife's twin grapes1. “Sex was great but we still have issues to resolve”
Never use sex to blanket your issues as a couple. Sex is not the best way of measuring a good relationship; it’s possible to have explosive sex even with someone who hurts you. Do calm down after the high and talk about your issues. Make up sex is good, but only when actual making up occurs and matters are addressed.

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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