10 THINGS A LOVER LOOKS OUT FOR BEFORE TAKING THE RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL

10. How you handle correction

Do you get offended when you are faulted? Are you easy to correct? Do you admit when wrong? A lover looking to see if you are a suitable life-partner will look at how you own up to responsibility, how easy you are to work with.

binti afrique9. How you handle “NO”

Relationships/ marriage is about compromise, not every day you will get everything going your way. Will you be OK to listen to your partner? To cede ground? Will you be OK if your partner says “No” to your option for good reasons? Will you take competition inside the relationship?… If your lover says “No” to your date when you request because of work will you be vexed? If your lover doesn’t pick up your phone call for legitimate reasons, will you be furious for no reason?

roar dayan8. How you handle failure

Sometimes you will fail, sometimes your lover will fall. If it happens, will you give up on yourself? Will you give up on your lover? Are you easy to discourage? Do you only love when things are going smoothly?

protect africa7. How you handle money

Do you look like the type who will be changed when you get more money? Do you judge your partner based on how much he/ she earns? Or do you have a low self-esteem because your partner earns more? Will your partner have to constantly keep reminding you it’s OK if you have less than he/ she does?

family car6. How you handle your temper

Tempers will flare sometimes, the closer you get to each other the easier it is to step on each other’s nerves? What do you do when you are angry? Do you curse, insult, drown yourself in alcohol, do irrational things?… or do you pray, calm down, seek the route of peace?… Do you avoid issues or are you the type to seek solutions. Everyone wants a partner easy to work and live with.

uplifting music5. How you handle tragic news

Are you a comforter? Are you able to sooth your lover when your lover is in pain? Do you make your lover feel better? When someone close to your lover dies, do you help in mourning? Or do you expect your lover to comfort you but you fall short when your lover needs your support?…When things tragic happen, do you share with your lover or keep things to yourself? Do you only share the good things?

she's missing her king4. How you handle secrets

Are you trustworthy? Are you easy to talk with? Does your lover feel safe with you? Will you use the secrets your lover tells you as ammunition when you two fight? Can you keep the personal things in your relationship from the public?

planting kisses3. How you handle your ex

How do you talk about your ex? Does your ex still have an influence in your life? Do you have closure from your past or is there room your past will come to damage your future? Are you wrongly being suspicious of your lover because of the wrongs your ex did?

sweerie don't look behind, but i think they are talking about us2. How you handle yourself

Do you have a low self esteem? Are you a pessimist? Are you full of pride? Are you self-centred?… Or do you know yourself? Are you fun to be around? Do you find yourself sexy or do you depend on the opinion of others? How do you handle sex? What’s your view about sex? Are you the type who talks cheaply about sex, a flirt? Are you the type who finds sex to be a taboo? No one likes a boring sex partner who over thinks things. No one likes a loose partner.

LET'S GET IT ON!!!1. How you handle children

A lover who is keen on a lasting relationship, marriage will pay attention to how you treat children or how you talk about children. For a man, he will look out for her motherly signs: how does she handle other people’s children and if she is a single mother, how does she handle her own child/ children? For a woman, she will look for a father figure: is the man mature enough to raise someone, does he have qualities of leading, or nurturing?

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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SHE’S MORE OF A MAN, LESS OF A WOMAN

No, she’s not the butch in a lesbian’s relationship
She is straight
She grew up wearing dresses, playing with dolls
Had crushes with boys, fell in love with a man

She was a princess, but before she turned into a queen
She was forced to be manly
In a world that tells her
“Act like a lady, think like a man”

But if she thinks like a man
Who will think womanly things?
Aren’t the feminine thoughts important?
Was it a mistake to create her a woman?

The men in her life failed her
Her alcoholic, abusive father rejected her
Her cousin raped her, her male boss harrased her
Every man sees her as a sex object up for grab

Where was a man when she needed a father figure?
Where was a man to protect her from an unfair world?
Where is the man she thought loved her?
Where is he, the one who impregnated her?

A single mother, an absent father to her child
She’s pushed to become mum and dad
Where are the so called heads of the family?
Will the real men please stand up?

Will the real men please stand up?
Take your rightful space in society
Use your strength not to beat or dominate
But to shield a woman from the monster a man can be

Will the real men please stand up?
Be the man who refuses to sleep with the prostitute
Because that prostitute needs to meet a different man
A man who’ll say “Your body is not for sale, you’re better than this”

Will the real men please stand up?
Will you stop being heartbreaking boys?
Stop thinking with what is between your legs
Start shaping the world with what is between your ears?

Woman be woman, let man play his role
They say what a man can do
A woman can do better
But it’s best when he and she do it together

BY DAYAN MASINDE

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

A POEM FOR UKRAINE

Ukraine, crane your neck
Crane your neck and you will find wisdom
To the world you have become a source of entertainment
Popular you are for all the wrong reasons

Crane your neck Ukraine
And see how foolish it is for your citizens to fight each other
To divide yourself between East and West
Two different forces pushing Crimea and Kiev

Crane your neck Ukraine, find the compass leading to truth
Stop tempting war, see how shallow it is
To destoy your beautiful country
Based on what language one speaks

Some are using you for political milage
Others are riding on you to flex their muscle
But it is your children that are dying
It is your economy that is going to the dogs

See your policemen tired, see the tears in the crowd
As they hold weapons shouting propaganda
Deep down inside both sides ask
“What happened to us? We used to be brothers and sisters”

And you still are brothers and sisters
You still can be Ukraine, the yellow and blue
The rich country, the bread basket of fertile hue
Don’t you see your ports and location is the envy of many?

Don’t you see in your anger it is easy to be manipulated?
Refuse for you nation to be turned into a circus
Your help will not come from the East or West winds
Your help billows in the breeze of love

Crane your neck Ukraine
Above the toxic gas of hatred
Breathe. Think
Before more blood spills

BY DAYAN MASINDE

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To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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10 REASONS WHY A BELIEVER SHOULD NOT ARGUE WITH AN ATHEIST

10. God doesn’t need a lawyer
God doesn’t need defense. God is not insecure. God is not at the mercy of our belief. God is God whether we believe or not. Human beings have the tendency to steal each others inventions, only the penalty of the law and the demand for ethics keeps us in check; hence it is easy for us to deny God the honor of Creator. Yet the mystery and splendor of God surrounds us: all of creation, our intricate design, our intangible spirit, the desire for love, the limitations of our ability, our delicate breath. We may boast of science and knowledge, yet research is just an exploration of God’s work, we still don’t know everything. We design cars aping God’s creation, we design the computer aping the human brain, and we hunger for excellence, perfection because we have a longing for wholeness, completion, the best, purity- God.

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9. Arguing pushes away, loving attracts
Arguing pushes people away, arguing will pit us against each other, puts the protagonists on an offensive and defensive mode which takes us out of love. Love is what a believer should do; God should be seen through the believer.

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8. You can’t explain experience.
Experience is not inherited. A believer cannot explain their walk with God to someone who has never walked with God. It’s like a husband trying to explain to his friends how sweet his wife kisses him. The non-believer may not understand when a believer speaks of how God healed him, how God transformed her, how God speaks, how God has forgiven, how much peace they have. A believer shouldn’t be mad when a non-believer doesn’t get it YET.

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7. Believers are peacemakers
Believers don’t go looking for fights, quarrels, squabbles and debates. Live out your life to God before the world, share about God peacefully when you can. Don’t shove God down someone’s throat. Don’t judge someone and elevate yourself to a “holier than thou” state just because someone hasn’t believed YET or their walk with God is not as fast or as fruitful as yours.

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6. We don’t find God, God finds us
We all have our Damascus Road, that point where we encounter God and are faced with a personal choice to make. God finds us. Amazing grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me, I once was lost but now I am found.

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5. It’s a dead end when one doesn’t acknowledge sin
Interesting how we as a society legislate laws, we define crime, and we punish criminals with fines and jail time yet refuse to acknowledge our individual human sin. Sin when we cheat, sin when we wish someone wrong, sin when we insult, sin when we are jealous, sin when we fall short of this excellence and perfection that we strive to have. It is difficult for someone to see they need God when they don’t accept their shortcomings and inadequacies. None is perfect.

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4. Human intellect alone is not enough
The two protagonists will argue on uneven grounds. One will argue on human intellect and facts alone, whilst the believer’s human intellect reasons linked to the spirit that has been made alive with God. The believer uses facts accompanied by faith knowing there are things beyond human understanding for now. Believers don’t just rely on the written word; their spirit is connected with God everyday, transforming them by the renewal of their mind. Head knowledge is not enough. Head knowledge is what made people of the past say everything revolves around the earth, but Galileo knew there was more to the earth than what was then accepted. More out there in space than humans had fathomed.

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3. Labels divide us. It’s not us against them
We live in a world that loves to give labels- labels in terms of race, labels in terms of wealth- first world and third world, labels in terms of ideology- east versus west, communism versus capitalism. Labels only divide us; they cloud us and put us on attacking and comparison mode against the antagonizing label on the “other side”. But love teaches us, love opens our eyes, love respects your belief or lack of belief. It should never be seen as “us against them”

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2. Doubt is part of the search
Everyone has a right to search for their creator, questions consume each individual. The same way an orphan longs to trace their origin. The same way people brought up by single mothers wonder who is their absent father. God is not absent. Doubting is the first key part in soul searching. Each spirit must wrestle with God, question. God seeks not blind following but a faith tried and tested, a human spirit freely giving itself to the Holy Spirit.

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1. A believer was once an atheist
Many argue that faith is taught. That God is a figment of imagination, a mere story handed down through generations, a good tale that the weak cling to. But if you knew something good, why keep it from others? We have preserved the mathematical knowledge spread by the Arabs, the democracy started by the Greeks, the martial arts started in Asia; what is wrong with preserving and handing down the goodness and majesty of God and the testimonies? None of us was born knowing that fire can burn, but we were taught that fire is dangerous. When we ventured to explore, we felt the heat of the fire, we acknowledged what we were told was true. Same thing, people can tell you about God, but as an individual, one must graduate from knowing about God to knowing God, a personal relationship with God.

feed the baby dear, i shall feed you


 

To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY

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