10. “I have a child”
Declare if you are a parent to the person you are hoping on pursuing love with, whether you are in that child’s life or not. Men have often been irresponsible in rejecting the child they have with a woman in the past and keep this from the new woman in their life, only for it to bring complications and feelings of mistrust. This truth can never be fully hidden, one day it will come out. If you don’t have the guts to declare your own flesh and blood, you have no right to seek new love.

autograph on my heart

9. “I was once married”
Were you once married? Declare this to your date, tell your date exactly what happened, did you divorce, separate, is the divorce final?.. Are you in a marriage union and still going out on dates with others? Shame on you, stop wooing someone new, go work on your marriage. If you want to date again, conclude the divorce. Either you are in or you’re out.

ellen johnson sirleaf

8. “I am not over my ex”
If you are still in love with your ex, hoping for things between you and your ex to work out, declare that. Don’t give your date false hopes of a future yet you are still dreaming of your ex. Declare it so that your date will hold back his/her feelings.

sitting on top of the world

7. “I am a virgin”
Are you waiting for someone extra special, waiting for marriage in order for you to have sex? Declare that. Declare your thoughts about sex so that the person hoping to love you will know what to expect when with you. Talk about how you will deal with matters of horniness. Your date could be expecting sex the first night yet you are waiting for a special night.


6. “I am sick”
Are you H.I.V positive, with cancer, an addiction, epileptic? Declare that. Having an illness or condition will not make you unlovable. Help your date and future lover to love you by declaring your status. Empower your lover by being open at the beginning, so that he/she will walk best with you.




5. “I don’t want any children”
When people are dating, they could be seeing a family in the future with you. Declare if you are interested in having children. Your date might be dreaming of a child with you yet you never want children. May be you even had a vasectomy or a tubal ligation and your poor date is hoping for parenthood one day with you.

the mother of my child

4. “I don’t believe in marriage”
Are you planning on getting married one day? If you are not, don’t waste the time of someone looking for a spouse

family car

3. “I am planning on being polygamous”
Man, don’t propose to a woman to a monogamous marriage and then as soon as she enters thinking your love for her will be exclusive you change and start the search for a second, third, and fourth wife. Tell the woman exactly what she’s getting herself into so that she can better say “Yes” or “No”


2. “I believe in God”
Are you praying for a Godly family with a Godly spouse? Then don’t waste time with someone who has no use for God.

Do you want nothing about God in your love-life? Then don’t continue loving someone who believes love comes from God. Someone who will want to pray with you, read the Word with you but you detest all that’s Godly.

serene dayan

1. “I am bi-sexual”
Some people marry someone of the opposite sex to cover up their love for the same sex. Come out clearly from the beginning; to a wife, the most hurtful thing can be losing her husband to a man or her husband cheating on her with a man. To the man he needs to know if the woman is all for a masculine love, or will in secret be fantasizing about women?

kissing my way to my wife's twin grapes


To read more of Dayan Masinde’s writing on love, you may purchase “WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE”- poetry book by Dayan Masinde on Amazon. Click on this link for direction http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JVUQAPY



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